Thursday, May 9, 2013

TTC #2: appointments, appointments!

Well, it’s begun! This week me and G had my new patient fertility appointment with Dr. C and it seemed to go really well.  I also had my first fertility acupuncture appointment but I’ll get to that in a bit.  The NP appointment consisted of a ton of paperwork, which I was expecting, as well as a meeting with our fertility doctor, Dr. C and his new nurse who I will call M.  I LOVED M!  The office was packed the afternoon we went in so the nurse consultation portion of our appointment with M took place in the staff kitchen, ha!  She was so great.  She totally took her time talking to us about our past experiences with TTC Grace and what to expect going forward with me.  I talked to her about my PCOS concerns and it turned out that she too has PCOS so she was a wealth of knowledge. 

The meeting with Dr. C was pretty short and quickly transitioned to my ultrasound and exam.  Dr. C said that I had a “beautiful uterus and lining”, which cracked us all up and the US showed quite a bit of follicles just chillin in my uterus.  G was totally shocked by that because she never seemed to produce more than 1-2 so compared to the 7-8 we saw on the screen it was a bit shocking!  I have 3 sets of multiples in my family (that I know of) so here’s hoping my many follicles are not a sign of things to come… 

We had the scare of our life at the end of the appointment as we met with the finance/benefits coordinator.  She reviewed our specialist co-pays and informed us that our new insurance (which our company switched to last year) did not cover fertility treatment as our previous insurance did with Grace.  She said it very matter-of-fact like it was no big deal and you seriously could have heard a pin drop as she reviewed everything we would have to pay out of pocket.  The thought of us not being covered hadn’t even dawned on me so the news was quite devastating.  I, per the usual, panicked.  Just last month me and G paid the last $8000.00 of Gracie’s medical bills so we literally have ZERO savings right now.  Because of this, as the coordinator went over everything all I heard in my head was – you’re not going to have another baby, EVER.

Thankfully Georgia is extremely level headed and asked me to wait until the following day after she talked to our insurance company before I panicked.  I followed her instructions and I’m glad I did.  The following day we spoke with our insurance company and the clinic several times.  They opened a review of everything and within a few hours we received the SUPER FANTASTIC news that 90% of my treatment would in fact be covered.  Thank you Jesus!  The miscommunication was due to human error on our clinics side.  Even though I was upset that we were put through 24 hours of extreme stress, I was just grateful that it worked out as I know this is not the case with so many gay families trying to conceive.  We are very fortunate in this regard.

My acupuncture appointment was yesterday and it wasn’t as scary as I thought it would be.  I’m a bit of a chicken when it comes to needles, so the thought of being poked a dozen times did not sound fun.  My acupuncturist specializes in fertility acupuncture and is the best in the state.  To this day both G and I swear that she is the reason we conceived Grace.  We’ve since referred 2 friends to her and they agree that she made it happen for them too.  Because of this I had to schedule my appointments 2 months ago just to get in to see her and I can now see why she is in such demand.  She completed a full evaluation of me and the only area that she said would need extra attention was my large intestine.  No shocker there… I’ve always had all sorts of digestive issues and I’m a stressor, which is not a good combo.  I only ended up needing 8 needles, which she said was a good thing.  After the appointment I told G about the 8 needles and she said she had around 15 her first time.  In this instance, I guess less is more. :)      

It’s been pretty awesome to get to share in this experience with G.  Not often do both parents get to experience conception and pregnancy on both sides of the fence as lesbian couples do.  I 100% appreciate the perspective this has given me and it’s awesome to have a person living in my house who I can ask my millions of questions to daily.  Poor Georgia, lol!

The game plan as it stands today is to concentrate on loosing at least 25 pounds between now and August (3lbs down this week, 22lbs to go).  I’m super determined and I believe I can do it.  Following my next period we’ll being charting my ovulation while continuing with a weekly fertility acupuncture session for the next 10 weeks.  It’s amazing how much more educated you are the second time around.  My hope is that all of these preparations and precautions we are taking now will result in baby #2, sooner than later.

Sending baby dust to all my fellow prego mamas out in blogland.  I look forward to joining you. :)

24 comments:

  1. YAY! Super excited for you girls! I had hoped to lose weight before getting pregnant but the hormones had the opposite effect ;-/! Goodluck!!

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    1. Those damn hormones! I guess we will soon see if I need any and if so, I'm sure I too will gain. I can pack on the pounds like a champ... they never come off quite as fast. ;)

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  2. I'm so glad your wife is level headed. I too agree at the wonder that comes with 2 moms willing and able to conceive. J never wanted the physical side of it...which is good because I REALLY wanted to be pregnant.
    and I know that in the time and energy we put into getting me pregnant had Jan wanted to get pregnant too....we would have switched over to her uterus and she would have been pregnant before we left the clinic and then I would have been jealous and bitter. :) I think. ha ha

    So excited for you to begin this journey !
    Yay !

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    1. Amen to that! If we were both worry worts I don't think we would have ever made it down the aisle, haha! The funny thing is that when G and I first started dating she had zero desire to carry. Over time she changed her mind, thankfully! I'm with you on the bitterness... If I went first and we had to switch, that would be extremely tough.

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  3. So excited to watch you on this journey!!!! I am hoping for a sooner than later Baby #2 for you! And if it just so happens to be as adorable as Grace then hey even better ;)

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    1. This is going to be our "sooner-than-later" baby, I can just feel it! I can't wait to meet baby Boo!

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  4. Dear Kirsten,
    I just stumbled upon your blog and I'm so glad I did. Your little Grace is adorable and I have just spent the past hour reading of her story. Good luck with baby #2. I look forward to following your journey!

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    1. Hi M, I'm so glad you found us! I visited your blog (which is beautiful by the way) and started following. Congratulations on your little bun in the oven, so exciting! I look forward to following your journey.

      I'll be adding Gayby Journey to my blog roll. :)

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  5. yay!!!! super pumped for you girls! hope it goes smoothly can't wait for you to get started!

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    1. Thanks so much B! We're counting the days, well more like weeks. ;)

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  6. I'm so excited for you all! I will be following your journey very closely!! I am hoping all goes just great.

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    1. Thank you, thank you! I still haven't decided if I want to announce when we actually inseminate as well as the BNP until the 3 month mark. I didn't blog about our first pregnancy until we were out of the woods, so to speak, but I'm thinking I may this time around. I’m trying to be super positive in my thinking and words with it comes to TTC #2, but I know that it can get tough when you have to share BFN’s time and time again. I guess we’ll just see how I feel when the time comes. :)

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  7. Exciting! I'm glad your insurance covers it after all, unfortunately mine doesn't, so I can imagine the panic you had when you thought yours didn't! :)
    We're still TTC #1, but hopefully we're both pregnant by the end of the summer! Good luck!

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    1. Thanks Nadine! I'm so sorry to hear about your insurance. It's just ridiculous that something this medical and necessary wouldn’t be covered!! That’s so exciting to hear that you’re TTC #1! I just found your blog and starting following so I’m excited to follow your journey too.

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  8. So excited for you both! Gracie is going to be such a fantastic big sister! :) I am definitely looking forward to more updates, so glad your insurance DOES pay for fertility treatments. I can't imagine having to go through what you guys went through and to do it for a second time! Sending you ALL lots of happy baby dust.

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    1. That's so sweet of you to say. I think she'll make a pretty great big sis too.

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  9. Wishing you guys the best of luck on your TTC journey. Hope it will be a quick one for you!

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    1. Me too!! Thanks for the well wishes. :)

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  10. How exciting!! Fingers crossed it will be a quick journey for you guys!! :)

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    1. Thanks so much! It's great to read that things are progressing nicely for you! That baby of yours is going to be here before you know it! Yay!

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  11. So happy that things are moving along so well and that things are in your favor! Sending lots of good vibes your way! : )

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    1. Thanks M! I'll take all the good vibes I can get. :)

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  12. I can't recommend fertility acupuncture enough. Im so glad you are going. I do believe it did the trick for me as well. Additionally, she prescribed some herbs that i took three times a day. At first she wanted me to take them as a tincture under my tongue, but they were so nasty tasting that I had to take the pill form, which equaled out to 9 pills daily. It was so worth it, though.
    You do seem to have a really good plan in place! The first time around we are just shooting in the dark, but with the second you have all the benefit of knowing what worked last time and what didn't and you can avoid taking the scenic route. I also believe that pushing for the tests that my charting was telling me might be useful was a huge help too. If I hadn't pushed for testing my progesterone, they wouldn't have done that and it ended up being a huge part of getting and staying pregnant. It was my charting that revealed a possible need for this test as I discovered that I had a short luteal phase. Also, I saw that i had a weak ovulation due to the stair step temp rise after ovulation. That helped inform my decision to push for taking clomid - at the lowest dose. In the end, these things all worked in my favor. I listened to my gut and obsessed about charting and interpreting signs and I asked for help and it was all so worth it.
    You've got this, K. I'm so, so excited for you!

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    1. Hmmm, herbs? I'm going to have to ask about that. I'm seriously down to try anything and everything! I can't believe you had to take 9 pills a day... I can only imagine what your pee must have looked like, lol! I'm all about progesterone too. That is what helped G to stay prego the second time and I have no problem using it if neccessary. See you two soon!

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