Umm, where did my perfectly well-behaved baby go? Has anyone seen her? She pops her head out every now and then, but my lord is this kiddo becoming her own person, more and more everyday. It’s unbelievable. These days we hear, “no mama!” and “no mommy!” on the regular… So that’s something we find ourselves addressing daily. She’s also still pinching and when she does, it’s usually on the cheeks and it hurts! Thankfully she doesn’t hit or pinch other kiddos (just her moms) but still, it’s something we’re working on. Right now our course of action is to make sure she understands that pinching hurts and apologizes anytime the pinchers come out. She usually takes it a step further caressing our cheeks while saying, “gentle” or “soft touch”. It seems she’s slowly getting the idea.
I’m noticing a big change in her diet as well, as in, she will only eat what she wants to eat and even if you put a bite in her mouth – she WILL spit it out if she doesn’t want it. We’ve been extremely lucky in the eating department thus far because the Bean really does eat everything and she LOVES veggies and fruit of any kind. This was the case until about 6-8 weeks ago anyway, right around the time she decided to start letting her opinions be known and it appears she has lots of opinions about most things. ;) At first we thought she was picking at her food and not eating as good because she was sick over the holidays. Fast-forward nearly two months and still our meal times are just not as easy as they used to be. There are evenings when I find myself throwing half of Gracie’s dinner away and sometimes she doesn’t even eat half. On the flip side of that, I have friends who have told me stories of their kids launching plates full of food across the kitchen or going on 3 day hunger strikes so I know it could be way worse. I also know it’s possible I’ll be writing a post about Grace launching her plate full of food across the kitchen in the near future, so I’m just going to change the subject rather than jinx us…
As I wrote in a post last week, we’ve transitioned Grace to her big girl bed and at first she did amazing. I’m talkin', in her bed and asleep within minutes day and night – zero issues. This lasted a few days but by Thursday, the excitement of the “big girl bed” wore off and today marked day three of the battle of the naps. We put her down and she gets right back up. Yesterday, we had to put her back in bed 6 TIMES at naptime... The Bean eventually won that round and we gave in. Today looked to be a repeat of yesterday but then I remembered reading a blog post from 30 Fingers, 30 Toes a few months back, where my fellow blogging mama, Spring, wrote that she laid on the floor next to her sons beds when they transitioned and without talking would just sit up and put them right back in bed anytime her boys would crawl out. I decided to give it a try and it worked! I’m sure Grace was wondering what the heck mama was doing laying on the ground next to her bed, but when she climbed out, I put her right back in and laid down. I had to do this twice but within 13 minutes she was passed out. Yes, I time these kinds of things, lol.
As G and I were getting ready for bed last night, I told her that I felt like we scolded Grace a lot during the day (because we did) and I just hate that feeling. On the one hand, I know that it’s our job to teach our daughter what is and is not acceptable behavior. We’re the ones who have to teach her how treat others and how to get along in the world. On the other hand, I have to remind myself that she is only 22 months old and having to learn and digest new things every single day. I imagine that on some days, that must get exhausting for these little ones.
It seems that just when I’m at the height of frustration, tired and ready to give myself a time out, Grace will reach her little arms up and say one of her many adorable phrases like, “hold you mama”, which means, please stop what you’re doing and hold me mama. It’s always on the days when I’m feeling like she’s pushed all of my buttons and I’m worn out when she will do or say something that will leave me in awe of just how smart she is or what an incredibly sweet little girl we have. As a mama, I am so very thankful for these sweet reminders.
“you will never have this day with your children again.
tomorrow, they’ll be a little older than they were today.
this day is a gift.
breathe and notice.
smell and touch them;
study their faces
and little feet and pay attention.
relish the charms of the present.
enjoy today, mama.
It will be over before you know it”.