This week has brought about several new developments in the TTC #2 department. Let’s start with me changing RE’s, shall we? When G went through the TTC process we worked with Dr. C, the younger of the two RE’s in the practice. G liked him and he did a good job but he always came off as kind of a jerk to me. He and I just didn’t seem to mesh (mostly because I tend to ask a lot of questions and he didn’t seem to like that very much). In all honesty, I didn’t really care that he was a jerk because I knew that at the end of the day we were trying to make a baby, not make new friends, lol. When it was time to start the process with me, I talked to Georgia about switching to the senior RE, Dr. T who owns the practice (and was actually the RE who inseminated G with Gracie back in 2011 because Dr. C was off that day). Ultimately, we decided that it could ruffle too many feathers so we didn’t make the switch.
For my first couple of appointments and both inseminations, I was surprised that Dr. C wasn’t present for any of them. It was a bit weird considering he was present for all of G’s appointments but I blew it off. I definitely found it odd but didn’t get bothered until around the 6th or 7th appointment that we went to and still, no Dr. C. Now please don’t get me wrong, nurses are AMAZING but there are also a lot of things they can’t tell you as well as questions they can’t answer without consulting the RE. This was our experience at our clinic anyway. I became truly unglued at the 10th appointment we attend (still no Dr. C) only for this appointment we met with Dr. T, the senior RE who I wanted to switch to when we started the process. He took one look at my blood tests and my lady parts and asked why I wasn’t taking Met.formin. I had no idea what Met.formin was but as it was explained to me, with my PCOS diagnosis and my test results, one of which was slightly out of the “normal” range, the medication would significantly increase my chances of becoming pregnant and I should have started it months ago! Umm, what? Yeah, I was pissed. Had Dr. C made it to just ONE of our “specialist” appointments over these past 3 months, I could have started Met.formin back in November and who knows how that could have impacted my first 2 inseminations. I’m definitely not blaming Dr. C for my BFN’s, but his absence certainly didn’t help…
This made our decision an easy one and this week (after jumping through several hoops), I officially became a new patient of Dr. T! I am beyond thrilled with this new development in our journey to give Grace a sibling. :)
The other tidbit of new info regarding our efforts to conceive, fell into our laps this afternoon. When we were TTC Grace, I called our clinic just about every other month to check the supply of vials available for our donor. Once G got pregnant and we purchased 8 vials for future siblings, I chilled out on the check-ins for a bit. Today, I read several online chats between moms in my lesbian mom group about the desire to have biologically connected children and suddenly I had to urge to check our available vials again. I knew that we had used 2 of the 8 and that we were planning to do back-to-back IUI’s this next round using 2 more, so the thought of only having 4 remaining vials worried me a bit. G and I decided that we would use our tax return to purchase 4 additional vials so I called in to make the purchase, like I had several times before, and was given the heartbreaking news that our donor only had ONE vial left for purchase. I felt like I got hit by a bus and I seriously think I asked the person I was speaking with to check again about 4 times. Unfortunately, our clinic doesn’t do a buy back program and there is no way for me to contact people with vials to see if they’re interested in selling. Basically, that’s it. We now have 7 “frozen possibilities” of giving Grace a sibling. Have I mentioned that it took 7 inseminations to get pregnant with our daughter? Umm, yeah… This means that the possibility of having 3 kids, like I’ve always dreamt of, may not be possible. It also means that if it takes more inseminations to get me pregnant than it took G, we will run out of vials and Gracie will have no biological connection to her sibling(s). :( Now that I’ve put this in writing my plan is to forget about it for now and try to be 100% positive. I will get pregnant this next round. I will get pregnant this next round. I WILL get pregnant this next round! 3rd times a charm.
Anyway, that’s what’s been going on in our TTC world. I’m sure you now understand the title of this post – 2nd birthday party planning – a welcomed distraction. Welcomed indeed!
Serious question here, how is it even possible that we are just two weekends away from our baby girl’s 2nd birthday party? I know I say this often but time is flying as it has since the first day our gal entered this world. As you may remember from a post I wrote last year, I promised the wife that when birthday #2 rolled around, we would keep it more “low key”, i.e. keep the guest list small(er), spend less money, keep birthday professional pictures optional, with the biggest promise being that I wouldn’t turn the guestroom and the rest of the house into a birthday party workstation…
I’m happy to report that thus far I’ve been able to keep up my end of the deal, for the most part. I didn’t start birthday crafting of any kind until this past weekend when I made Gracie’s birthday banner and we kept things simple with the Bean’s invites this year too. I ordered the design for her invitations on Et.sy for $10 and because we already had the ink and photo paper, the only other things we needed to purchase were stamps. We also decided to hold off on taking Gracie’s 2-year professional pictures until the end of March/beginning of April because squeezing a photo shoot in with February work travel + her extracurricular activities + party prep was just not worth the worry right now – especially since we just had our family photos taken 3 months ago. I think her Christmas picture turned out super cute on her birthday invites! See… holding up my end of the deal over here!
As much as G wants to pretend that she doesn’t get just as into “party mode” as I do, she totally does. She is away on a business trip this weekend and already she’s hit up the Outlet Mall and made several birthday purchases all on her own, haha! Check out these purple Crocs she got the Bean to go with her ‘Sofia the First’ birthday outfit. Aren’t they the cutest?!
Gracie’s bday outfit was a total clearance steal as well! The only thing I paid full price for was her Sofia the First t-shirt and it was only $9. I got these purple sparkle shoes on clearance for 2 bucks so even though she’s not going to wear them to the party after all, she can still play dress up with them like she LOVES to do!
On the crafting agenda for this weekend is to make Princess Sofia gift bags! With G being away I may not get the chance to get much party stuff done, but I'm certainly going to try. Happy weekend everyone. :)