Friday, February 21, 2014

2nd birthday party planning - a welcomed distraction

This week has brought about several new developments in the TTC #2 department.  Let’s start with me changing RE’s, shall we?  When G went through the TTC process we worked with Dr. C, the younger of the two RE’s in the practice.  G liked him and he did a good job but he always came off as kind of a jerk to me.  He and I just didn’t seem to mesh (mostly because I tend to ask a lot of questions and he didn’t seem to like that very much).  In all honesty, I didn’t really care that he was a jerk because I knew that at the end of the day we were trying to make a baby, not make new friends, lol.  When it was time to start the process with me, I talked to Georgia about switching to the senior RE, Dr. T who owns the practice (and was actually the RE who inseminated G with Gracie back in 2011 because Dr. C was off that day).  Ultimately, we decided that it could ruffle too many feathers so we didn’t make the switch.

For my first couple of appointments and both inseminations, I was surprised that Dr. C wasn’t present for any of them.  It was a bit weird considering he was present for all of G’s appointments but I blew it off.  I definitely found it odd but didn’t get bothered until around the 6th or 7th appointment that we went to and still, no Dr. C.  Now please don’t get me wrong, nurses are AMAZING but there are also a lot of things they can’t tell you as well as questions they can’t answer without consulting the RE.  This was our experience at our clinic anyway.  I became truly unglued at the 10th appointment we attend (still no Dr. C) only for this appointment we met with Dr. T, the senior RE who I wanted to switch to when we started the process.  He took one look at my blood tests and my lady parts and asked why I wasn’t taking Met.formin.  I had no idea what Met.formin was but as it was explained to me, with my PCOS diagnosis and my test results, one of which was slightly out of the “normal” range, the medication would significantly increase my chances of becoming pregnant and I should have started it months ago!  Umm, what?  Yeah, I was pissed.  Had Dr. C made it to just ONE of our “specialist” appointments over these past 3 months, I could have started Met.formin back in November and who knows how that could have impacted my first 2 inseminations.  I’m definitely not blaming Dr. C for my BFN’s, but his absence certainly didn’t help…

This made our decision an easy one and this week (after jumping through several hoops), I officially became a new patient of Dr. T!  I am beyond thrilled with this new development in our journey to give Grace a sibling. :)

The other tidbit of new info regarding our efforts to conceive, fell into our laps this afternoon.  When we were TTC Grace, I called our clinic just about every other month to check the supply of vials available for our donor. Once G got pregnant and we purchased 8 vials for future siblings, I chilled out on the check-ins for a bit.  Today, I read several online chats between moms in my lesbian mom group about the desire to have biologically connected children and suddenly I had to urge to check our available vials again.  I knew that we had used 2 of the 8 and that we were planning to do back-to-back IUI’s this next round using 2 more, so the thought of only having 4 remaining vials worried me a bit.  G and I decided that we would use our tax return to purchase 4 additional vials so I called in to make the purchase, like I had several times before, and was given the heartbreaking news that our donor only had ONE vial left for purchase.  I felt like I got hit by a bus and I seriously think I asked the person I was speaking with to check again about 4 times.  Unfortunately, our clinic doesn’t do a buy back program and there is no way for me to contact people with vials to see if they’re interested in selling.  Basically, that’s it.  We now have 7 “frozen possibilities” of giving Grace a sibling.  Have I mentioned that it took 7 inseminations to get pregnant with our daughter?  Umm, yeah…  This means that the possibility of having 3 kids, like I’ve always dreamt of, may not be possible. It also means that if it takes more inseminations to get me pregnant than it took G, we will run out of vials and Gracie will have no biological connection to her sibling(s). :( Now that I’ve put this in writing my plan is to forget about it for now and try to be 100% positive.  I will get pregnant this next round.  I will get pregnant this next round.  I WILL get pregnant this next round!  3rd times a charm.

Anyway, that’s what’s been going on in our TTC world.  I’m sure you now understand the title of this post – 2nd birthday party planning – a welcomed distraction.  Welcomed indeed!


Serious question here, how is it even possible that we are just two weekends away from our baby girl’s 2nd birthday party?  I know I say this often but time is flying as it has since the first day our gal entered this world.  As you may remember from a post I wrote last year, I promised the wife that when birthday #2 rolled around, we would keep it more “low key”, i.e. keep the guest list small(er), spend less money, keep birthday professional pictures optional, with the biggest promise being that I wouldn’t turn the guestroom and the rest of the house into a birthday party workstation…


I’m happy to report that thus far I’ve been able to keep up my end of the deal, for the most part.  I didn’t start birthday crafting of any kind until this past weekend when I made Gracie’s birthday banner and we kept things simple with the Bean’s invites this year too.  I ordered the design for her invitations on Et.sy for $10 and because we already had the ink and photo paper, the only other things we needed to purchase were stamps.  We also decided to hold off on taking Gracie’s 2-year professional pictures until the end of March/beginning of April because squeezing a photo shoot in with February work travel + her extracurricular activities + party prep was just not worth the worry right now – especially since we just had our family photos taken 3 months ago.  I think her Christmas picture turned out super cute on her birthday invites!  See… holding up my end of the deal over here!


As much as G wants to pretend that she doesn’t get just as into “party mode” as I do, she totally does.  She is away on a business trip this weekend and already she’s hit up the Outlet Mall and made several birthday purchases all on her own, haha!  Check out these purple Crocs she got the Bean to go with her ‘Sofia the First’ birthday outfit.  Aren’t they the cutest?!


Gracie’s bday outfit was a total clearance steal as well!  The only thing I paid full price for was her Sofia the First t-shirt and it was only $9.  I got these purple sparkle shoes on clearance for 2 bucks so even though she’s not going to wear them to the party after all, she can still play dress up with them like she LOVES to do!


On the crafting agenda for this weekend is to make Princess Sofia gift bags!  With G being away I may not get the chance to get much party stuff done, but I'm certainly going to try.  Happy weekend everyone. :)


18 comments:

  1. Ugh. I would be so pissed about the RE. Glad you switched! And if there are donor sib families out there you might be able to find extra vials if you do need them (which I really hope you won't!). We have some we aren't likely to use that we won't sell back for another year when we are really sure we are done, but would definitely hold those for sib families if they asked. The birthday stuff is adorable! Just starting to get going on that here, and also trying to rein it in a bit from last year...

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  2. Oh Isa, you have no idea how happy I am that we switched. I hadn't realized how upset it was getting me that our RE was MIA until after making the switch. I already feel less stressed.

    I can't believe our girls on nearly TWO years old! Where did the time go?

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  3. Good call on the switch! I would have been beyond pissed by the 3rd appointment, no patience here!

    I adore that birthday banner!

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    1. I was soooo ready to switch but I was afraid that we would and then our new Dr would be out the next time we had an IUI and I'd be stuck with the original one again, lol. We realized soon enough that the stress wasn't worth it and we needed to switch.

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  4. Ugh sometimes doc's are the worst. I switched partway through because I felt like my first assigned RE was totally unresponsive and it was infurating.

    I've taken metformin before but nobody mentioned it with TTC....will you take it in addition to clomid?

    I'm crossing my fingers that the 3rd times a charm for you, it will all work out somehow, hang in there!

    And what a fabulous fun distraction you have in Gracie and all the adorable party planning, you crafty lady, you!

    -Sarah

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    1. Hi Sarah, once my new Dr mentioned putting me on Metfor.min I suddenly remembered that that's what made the difference for my friend Lisa when she was trying to conceive with PCOS. I'm up to 3 doses of Metfor.min a day + clom.id (CD 5-9) and starting Thursday I'll be on progesterone again. Oh and a prenatal vitamin and an extra B-6 supplement. LOL, sounds like a lot once I write it all out. Whatever it takes, right?!

      How are you doing? I know you're on the same TTC roller coaster as me and lord knows it isn't easy. Sending baby dust your way. :)

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  5. Love you guys! You two are such awesome moms! :)

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    1. So sweet of you to say - thanks friend. :)

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  6. To add to Isa's....there were a bunch of us selling our left overs and buying them up. It may not happen right now, but if you are registered on the DSR you can post that you are interested in buying any vials. You might be surprised.
    I hope there is no need to look any further.

    Good things happen in time. So happy that you found your new doctor. It almost makes you want to ask for the next 3 times free.

    TWO. But you just went all out for her first birthday party. I remember. It was GREAT. so you still have like 10 months until you have to start working on birthday number 2. I'm sure of it. Check your dates.
    ;-)

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    1. That's so great to hear. We've purchased the one vial that was left and I'm going to just keep calling every single month to see if any become available. I'm also going to look into the DSR. I'm not familiar with it but if it allows us any opportunity to secure more vials, I'm all for it. Thanks Karen. :)

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  7. I'm planning the biggest damn Racecar/Cars Movie Themed 2nd birthday ever. And I think Kim just asked me yesterday to tone it down :( LOL It's a little late now! I did compromise on the cake situation. I'll have to do a post on it!! I absolutely love having a birthday twin for Punky to watch grow and thrive, it's like they are virtual besties ;)

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    1. I can't wait to see pictures of P's party! I know it's going to turn out great!

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  8. Good call on switching REs. No one wants hurt feelings or awkwardness, but at the same time, being MIA for every appointment is unprofessional in my book. Then again, we are used to our RE that always is there, present, and spends a good 10-15 minutes after the "physical aspect" of the appointment in his office with patients discussing anything they would like. I have heard very good things about metformin and PCOS. I feel the energy building up, that BFP is a comin' :)

    How can she be almost 2?!?!?! It is just not possible! Super cute banner. It blog-spired me to make the banner for Boo's fast approaching 1st birthday....yea crazy how fast that first year goes!

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    1. So unprofessional indeed. In hindsight, I can't believe I went along with having an MIA RE for such a long time... Thanks for the encouragement! I feel like my BFP is coming soon too. At first I tried keeping myself grounded and not allowing myself get to excited for fear that I would be super disappointed to get a BFN, but then I realized that there is power in positive thought. Why not think anything is possible and it could totally happen! I'm choosing hope!

      How is Boo going to be ONE already?? This kids need to slow down. I can't wait to see what you have planned for her big day. :)

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  9. Glad you're with the RE you like now. I had one IUI with one I didn't like and part of me is glad it didn't work. LOL

    Angele has PCOS and they had her on Femara and I think something else and it worked beautifully. But yeah, you definitely need something to keep your lining shedding properly, etc.

    Fingers crossed that your BFP comes soon. I know how you feel about the limited vials. Can you not reach out to other families with the same donor and do a transfer? Our group has done that and the bank (Xytex) said it was fine to buy/transfer from others.

    Love the banner--super cute.

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    1. I've never heard of Fermara - I'm so out of the loop when it comes to medications. Hopefully I won't need to look into it but I'm making a mental note just in case. I'm going to talk with our bank again to see about contacting other families or, if nothing else, having them contact families for me.

      Thanks so much for the baby dust. :)

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    2. Femara is a breast cancer drug and they found it worked better than Chlomid as it didn't create all of the nasty side effects and it only produced 1 egg instead of multiples. It also didn't impact the lining as much. Angele used it to help ovulate and she had a great response to it. She also finds that she's now ovulating more regularly even though she hasn't been on it in a long time. That said, we only did 3 tries with her before we stopped and after she loses weight she'll most likely try again in a year or so. Anyway, worth checking out as Angele has PCOS and that's what our RE used. Metformin is very standard for PCOS as well.

      Femara is also called Letrozole: http://www.advancedfertility.com/femara-letrozole-fertility.htm

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    3. Thanks so much Stacey! You're awesome!!

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