This whole thing started because my wedding ring stopped fitting and I physically couldn't play or do the active things I wanted to do with my kiddos, but it has since morphed into so much more than that. This is the longest that G and I have stayed committed to eating healthy and exercising in all the years that we've been together and honestly, it's been amazing. It's been hard work, but so f-ing amazing!
There's a saying I read a few weeks ago that totally hit home for me. It was about the 21/90 rule. The rule states that it takes 21 days for someone to create a habit and 90 days for that habit to become a lifestyle. This could not be more true for us and we can both feel that truth, every single day.
Never did I think that we could commit to going to the gym 4-5 days a week (usually 5) for this long. Never did I think that I would be able to cut my carb intake successfully 5 days a week, the way that I have these past 3.5 months. Never did I think that I would enjoy eating things like nuts as "snacks" or actually crave yummy salads - but I do. I was the worst and I mean, the absolute worst at drinking water, and now I'm consuming 64-72 ounces of h2o a day. Wine is something I drank every week, sometimes several days a week and that's gone now too.
Now, please don't get me wrong... I/we still drink, we just make better choices. We still consume complex carbs, we just do it 1-2 days a week instead of 7 and even then, we don't let ourselves fall off the deep end. We still have cheat meals and tough days, but I'm telling you guys - when you're ready to make a change, you'll know and when you know, you'll just do it.
I am nearly 30 pounds down now in week 14 and I can see my body shrinking in every outfit I put on. And as amazing as this is to me, the thing I'm most proud of is that I've done it with zero diet pills, or magic shakes, or wraps, or surgery, or starvation, but rather slow, steady and committed work. The eye drops that I used to have to put in my eyes all.day.long sit at home now. Thanks to my massive water consumption, my red eyes are gone. I'm sleeping better and I'm not constantly exhausted anymore. I'm playing more with the kids. I'm kissing my wife more. I'm happier. So much happier and I'm truly practicing self-care for the first time in 13 years.
Sometimes I get scared that I'll return to old habits and fall back into who I used to be, but then I look over at the gym bag sitting next to my desk and I think of all the planning Georgia and I have put into making sure we adopt this "lifestyle" forever.
We've adjusted to making frequent trips to the grocery store, because when you're eating clean, your food is much more perishable. We have 100% partnered in caring for the kids and carpooling so that both of us have the ability to carve out time to exercise. This journey has required us to encourage each other and remind one another of why we're working so hard, especially on those days when we just want to go home and sit on the couch. It's required that we celebrate the smallest of victories like losing 2 more pounds or slipping on baggy jeans that didn't used to be baggy! It's required that we mix things up so that our workouts remain effective and our meals don't grow boring and it required that we continue to believe that all of this is possible in the long-term, because it is!
So, if this is something you wish to do for yourself, I'm here to tell you that you CAN. You just have to decide and start that day. You have to be patient with yourself and open to learning and un-learning all sorts of things. What I mean by this is that you may not know a whole lot about proper nutrition and you may not know how to use gym equipment, but guess what - you CAN learn all of these things and more. You may also have to un-learn things like bad eating habits and self-doubt , but guess what - you CAN do this too!
I know that I haven't even been at this 4 months yet and I, by no means think I'm a fitness expert or self-help coach. I also know that I'm doing what I'm talking about here, every single day and I'm doing it successfully. I know that I'm 100% committed and I'm excited to share the journey with anyone out there who still reads this old blog of mine and wants to join me.